How common are unethical Boundaries?

In the past week, I’ve had conversations with two people in my own circle who’ve had experiences of boundary violations…

(...It makes me cringe wondering what other victims have endured in silence).

One was a dear friend who’s pastor groomed her while she was in recovery. When she came forward, the church stood by the perpetrator and she was the one who was ostracized…This also led her to relapse.

Another friend was casually sharing details of his work situation and the arrangement he has with his boss and as he joked that it may be a matter of unethical boundaries, he paused.

It probably is, he realized…

I’m beginning to see power dynamics everywhere and the places predators have a chance of finding available prey.

Power structures are set up to never change. It just makes sense right? Favor the few at the expense of the many. While I type this, Putin is invading a peaceful country. It’s brutal and only about power.

Thank goodness for leaders and heroes like President Zelensky - they know how to push back.

Narcissists feel entitled to everything at your expense and offer nothing in return - just empty promises and illusions of cooperation.

I feel compelled to talk about abuse to everyone now. It’s an intimate conversation and I’ve appreciated how me being vulnerable allows others permission to open up 🦋

So glad I have this blog now. A lot of the content I want to share doesn’t belong on other social media sites. At least for now.

This seems like a great place to do brain dumps and see how far I come over time.

I feel stronger. I wake up excited about the future some days.

Isolation kept me from healing. Time to connect and grow together ❤️‍🩹