Hello; Welcome…
I can’t keep it in any longer…I’m scared and don’t trust that I will be protected.
If reading this changes how you see me - then so be it. It’s been overwhelming keeping it in.
Silence helps no one…so here goes…deep breaths…
I’m the victim of Therapy Abuse and I’m being cyberstalked.
In 2014 I sought therapy for childhood abuse/abandonment. After disclosing feelings of Transference (a common occurrence where a patient projects onto their therapist - meant to be beneficial) this doctor very quickly began grooming me, terminated therapy and ended up abusing and exploiting me on and off for 7 years. He ruined my family.
As an abuse victim - it’s very easy to believe it’s all your fault. It wasn’t. He tried everything he could to keep me quiet - to protect him (even weaponizing his children because he KNOWS I adore children) but the stronger I became, the more I recognized the patterns of his abuse and started realizing I likely wasn’t his only victim.
I reached out for help in March 2021 - the experts at TELL (Therapy abuse exploitation links) I spoke with confirmed what I had been through and suggested I read the book “Psychopath Free”…I highlighted the entire book They use a script - lovebomb, trauma bond, idealize, devalue, discard…I remember being almost offended at how not surprised they were about my case - I was sure I wouldn’t be believed and yet they did immediately - that was shocking and comforting. I went through 3 weeks of intense physical shock.
Therapy abuse is also known as:
Soul Murder
Professional Incest/Rape
It’s akin to a child-adult relationship - there can be NO CONSENT. The power inbalance is too great.
I filed a complaint with the state licensing board in May, 2021 after reaching out to abuse and therapy abuse groups. When he found out it was me, he had his wife harass, threaten, intimidate me into not testifying I’m quite sure it was all him except for the voicemails…but he’s too smart to involve himself in this - he’ll use someone else.
It was frightening and I had a cease and desist letter sent in August, 2021.
But he doesn’t care. He’s currently being investigated, has been warned the police have been involved and I’m quite certain even a PFA (Protection from Abuse/Restraining Order) won’t stop him anyway.
But he’s STILL on my website.
Every time I tried to end things over the years, he’d create fake email account with multiple aliases. I COULDNT escape him. If I tried to end things on good terms, he would cause the most amount of chaos.
I have dozens of blocked emails over the years. I could never reply. He’d deactivate the account before I could…
It is trauma on top of trauma.
I’ve had seizures from the stress. Severe PTSD. I have spent so much time speaking with other victims and survivors of Therapy Abuse, Domestic Violence and Narcissistic Abuse. The confusion and brain fog are common - how can you believe someone who claims to have adored you was actually intentionally destroying your brain and nervous system?
And not just any “someone” - your DOCTOR.
I know I’m not alone - that’s why I can’t keep quiet.
I’m posting this publicly now because I worry he may prevent me from sharing my story. He’s a predator that needs to be stopped.
And I completely agree with this statement - having to tell my story over and over to people who just don’t understand is excruciating. So I’m just not doing it when I can avoid it. I have barely any energy - I intend to preserve it for helping other victims.
Many people closest to me have asked whether I’m aware of other victims - it’s been rather hard to begin that search without recognizing that I would have to go public myself…and that’s not an easy decision to make.
I felt so much shame. I don’t want to be judged on top of all the abuse I’ve suffered through.
But staying quiet was literally killing me.
Please reach out if you’ve been through anything similar. It’s a very lonely place to be
