Why Didn’t you Tell Anyone?

“Why didn’t you tell anyone?”

That’s the first question most victims are asked after bravely confessing they were the target of abusive behavior…Really messed up when you think about it.

Here are My reasons for waiting 6 years:

• Unsure it was even abuse - I felt very responsible

• Certain I wouldn’t be believed

• Fear of destroying his family

• Fear of ruining my family

• Fear of ruining my business reputation

• Shame, Humiliation, Embarrassment

Coming forward

A friend commented when discussing the potential of my abuser having other victims: “I can’t imagine not filing a complaint if I were his victim.”

Um…I can. I have more evidence than most and I’m STILL haunted by the idea that I’M somehow responsible…

This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Trying to seek justice after being abused by my therapist is doubly traumatizing.

I spoke with the state prosecutor today. The complaint I filed last year is slowly making progress. If there’s a hearing, it won’t be until Fall 2022.

I told him over the phone - this really is a marathon, not a sprint.

Coming forward isn’t for the faint of heart. But neither is remaining silent, IMO.